Sometimes I would
almost rather have
people take away years of my life than
take away a moment.
– Pearl Bailey
For what seems like just a moment waterfalls appear out of almost nowhere after rain in our area. So, I captured the moment because tomorrow it will be a trickle and then with no rain, gone.
Moments are what we appear to remember most. Moments of experience that etch themselves deeply into our brain’s circuits.
This goes for both good and bad moments. The bad moments I try to either delete or reframe them as a lesson or zoom out so I can see them in an objective light. They don’t seem so bad from that perspective.
But the good moments, I like when they pop into my head. I can replay them again and experience the same feeling I had when they took place.
Those are the moment’s Pearl is referring too and those are the moments that come from experiences, interactions, conversations.
Do more of that.
And be able to tap into those moments and the associated feelings when you need a boost.
Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
When I wake up I generally acknowledge that today is a great day.
Because I woke up.
I’m breathing and my nearest and dearest are up and breathing too. So, I’m at a 10 and the day hasn’t even started yet.
Do that exercise. When you wake up to acknowledge that you’re awake. That’s great!
Take that feeling into the day with you. Because one day you ain’t waking up. So, any day above ground is a good one.
And, you have the power to make of that day what you want to.
Yes. You. Do.
A life of reaction is a
life of slavery,
spiritually. One must
fight for a life of action,
Rita Mae Brown
Too often we are bouncing around like a pinball from one reaction to the next.
Ping! Ping! Ping! Ping!
This looks like we’re busy. This looks like we’re taking action.
We’re reacting to the things that come at us day after day. The only time this occurs to us is when something jolts us to our senses for a minute. And we see the reality of the game we’ve put ourselves in.
Ping! Ping! Ping! Ping!
Then before you know it, it’s game over!
Come to your senses more often. Rise above the game and start taking action.
“Nuff said.” (@chadwright278)
Normal is not something to aspire to, it’s something to get away from. - Jodie Foster
“I wish you were normal.” Never a more self-belief endangering statement has been uttered.
“I wish you were normal.”
Normal doesn’t amount too much though. Normal is boring.
Normal fades into the background and leaves no ripples on a pond. Because instead of a rock thrown it’s a feather.
However, my normal is not normal. Nor is our normal their normal. Maybe normal is a time or a place or sometimes a feeling. A fleeting one. Whereby you might feel at peace. Perhaps even whole.
But, it’s always your normal, not theirs. You must aspire to get away from their normal and in doing so create big ripples that affect more people. Who will aspire to greater things and so on and so on…
And whatsoever you do,
do it heartily.
– Colossians 3:23
Dynamic! Gusto! Heartily!
Using words with some power behind them give you an idea of the energy you should be putting into whatever doing.
There is a saying that goes if you’re going to do something you may as well do it right. That saying could also be, if you’re doing something anyway you may as well do it with all your energy.
Another way to look at things you do is that it might be the last time you do it. Morbid, maybe. Truth in reality.
Whatever you’re doing today, put your all into it.
Just because we check
the guns at the door,
doesn’t mean our
brains will change,
from hand grenades.
I love this line in Heathens. This line along with the saying, “Wherever you go, there you are”, is a reminder that the person who can change is you.
Part of the song refers to going down with the people you’re hanging out with. Question yourself about why you’re with the people you’re with. Because you’re either going up or down with them.
Choose up. It will have more of an impact on the people around you.
Enjoy the little things, for one day you might look back and discover they were the big things.
Enjoying and being grateful for small things is something I am instilling in myself and my children. Not so they think small, but so they are aware of the little things that brought some joy to their day.
These sometimes get glossed over by our narrative selves as they round the day up into something resembling a happy ending.
Taking notice of small things is a practice I recommend. It’s easy to do. When something that ‘sparks joy’ happens acknowledge it and revisit it later.
Every dinnertime and sometimes out driving we ask three things that happened today and how they made you feel. Or, tell me something you’re grateful for today. The answers from the kids astound me with their innocence and quality.
Try it now.
The world breaks
everyone and afterward
many are strong in the
– Ernest Hemingway
The Japanese have taken this idea to its limit with Kintsugi. The art of putting broken pottery pieces back together with gold. The idea is to embrace the flaws and imperfections and create a stronger, more beautiful piece of art.
That is how we should look at our breaks, our flaws and our imperfections. As we put ourselves back together we can imagine we are doing it gold. Self-knowledge is that gold.
Once back together, and you can get back together, you will have created a stronger more beautiful you.
How fucking cool is that picture in your head right now?