Being truthful is hard.
Someone once told me to be honest and kind, at the same time. This was a very long time ago when I was probably lying quite a lot. I was lying to myself mostly, about who I was and why I was doing what I was doing.
I think that telling the truth is hard. So, we don’t do it as often as we should. We tell ourselves a white lie doesn’t hurt anyone.
When I was young I told lies and became very good at telling them. That might be hard to read without thinking, “Well, you shouldn’t have lied.”
Why not? I lied to keep myself out of trouble. To keep me from being punished. To keep me from being found out. Whether I was wrong or I’d done something which might not have been wrong in some ways but was wrong in someone else’s eyes. If you don’t want to be punished for that, you have to lie.
And, you have to be very good at it. Do lie well you have to find out how people tell the truth, what they look like, what their body posture is. You have to figure out then, to lie, with some truth.
Hang with me here, it’s going to look like I’ve gone way off-piste. If you read Hitler, he believed that people lie to themselves so often that they can be told a big lie, or they won’t see a big lie that’s in front of them. This is incredible to me that we can be taken advantage of like that.
I wonder if Trump has read Mein Kampf because he tells lots of little lies that people find out, but maybe the big lies are being hidden.
But the biggest lie is generally held from yourself. So you need to tell the truth in an honest and kind way to yourself, as well. Because telling the truth will, as they say, set you free.
But the other thing is that we can pretend that everything is all right, we can lie to cover up. But the fact is that, if we tell the truth, people are more likely to listen, people are more likely to help.
So the truth will set you free and hard honest conversations by all people will help set us all free.
Quote for the week
“… and a charge of lying against someone whom you have always found truthful is a very serious thing; a very serious thing indeed.”
― C. S. Lewis