Today’s minimotivator on hating your parents and what you can do better

Henry Rollins

Today’s minimotivator.

“If you hate your parents, the man or the establishment, don’t show them up by getting wasted and wrapping your car around a tree. If you really want to rebel against your parents, out-learn them, outlive them, and know more than they do.”

Henry Rollins

My parents did the best they could with the tools they had and the lack of support and education available.

However, I have no excuse not to be better than them. I believe they expect that of me and gave me everything they had to equip me to be curious and a constant learner.

The wastage of life we see with young people getting drunk, wasted and being reckless is not cool. It’s not rebellion either. It’s selfish and foolhardy and a complete waste of the potential you had by being born.

Being better than your parents is your duty and your responsibility. It would be great if we could instil this idea of cool at a much younger age. It would give more kids the chance to show us what they can really do.

Today’s minimotivator on making the little choices towards success

Tim Kennedy

Today’s minimotivator.

Success is not achieved
in an instant, but 
through countless
tiny choices.
Tim Kennedy

That little choice you made today to not workout or not make that call or not eat well didn’t matter, right?

That first little choice to stay in bed plus the next little choice add up. They add up to a day filled with little choices that don’t seem a big deal at the time you’re making them.

If you looked back over the day and added each little choice up they would equal a massive choice. A massive choice not to take the actions you know you should be taking to improve your life.

Take care of the little choices, remember the rule of compounding and here’s to your success.

Today’s minimotivator on why you should be making yourself useful

Matthew B. Crawford

Today’s minimotivator.

Let me make 
myself useful.
– Matthew B. Crawford

This is a quote from the book, Shop Class as Soulcraft: An Inquiry Into the Value of Work.

Crawford also says you can’t hammer in a nail from the internet. … Maybe, if I was using the internet to call a builder. But, that’s not the point. The point is that a lot of people can’t do something as simple as hammering in a nail to hang a picture.

We now have generations who are in my opinion, useless. Coding isn’t going to cut down a tree and chop it up into my firewood.

Some are taking it upon themselves to upskill themselves and be useful. Because you never know when your mum is going to need a picture hung, a light bulb changed or the architrave screwed back on to the cavity slider.

Start to be useful today. Pick a project that requires you to pick up a circular saw, a hammer or a battery drill.

Learn how to do make yourself useful. Its life-changing to be able to do things for yourself and others.

Today’s minimotivator on darkness versus light, hate versus love

Martin Luther King - Strength to Love

Darkness cannot drive 
out darkness; only light 
can do that. 
Hate cannot drive out 
hate; only love can do that.

– Martin Luther King, Jr

If you have the time it is worthwhile to reflect on this statement. It’s part of a sermon King wrote in 1968 called Strength to Love,  while in jail no less. Where after being detained for 15 days he had the time to write several of his landmark sermons.

The whole paragraph has more impact but requires more time to digest so this is the pithy part useful for the internet.

The idea of driving something out gives me a vision of a rabid crowd and another of beating something out the kitchen door.

A religious vision? Maybe. Who knows where the mind draws from when reading such things.

But, it can be applied to today where the purveyors of trash that allow darkness and hate to proliferate in our lives, because it gets clicks, need driving out.

They need to be ignored as well once they’ve been driven out because the bleating we will hear will be noisy as they defend their right to publish and earn revenue.

Light and love are internal and always available. Use them daily by reading or watching more that is empowering and worthwhile spreading. It’s out there, you just need to look or closer to home pick up a book.

Today’s minimotivator on expanding your language and world

Ludwig Wittgenstein

The limits of my language mean the limits of my world.

Ludwig Wittgenstein

Now I’m not going to stick with Wittgenstein’s original premise with this quote as he was referring to philosophical things beyond my grasp.

However, I believe language is both powerful and limiting. If you only speak one language that is the only language you can think and express yourself in. Not always useful.

So, my take for this minimotivator is the idea that the limits of the words you use limit your world. You can see this with children as they struggle to describe the world around them.

Expanding your vocabulary and so your language, or learning another one, will expand your world. You will know the right word to use at the right time.

Talking or writing to the level of a 10-year-old might make it easy for people to understand you but, it might be restricting the idea you are attempting to convey.

To expand your language skills start learning a new word a day or reading more. Reading more brings with it the pleasure of a good story while learning new words and ways to use them. That’s a bonus worth taking up.

 

This week’s MondayMotivator on goals and being here before

Don't give up! Alba

You might remember the GFC. That obliteration of the world economy that hit us 11 or so years ago.

I recently reread an interview of myself in early 2009 and it prompted me to look at the similarities between our situation now and then.

We have been here before. in 2009 I said things like, “I feel I really put my head in the sand for a while as we were getting new clients,” and “This made me really look at my business hard and I realised it had become bloated and it was time to get back into shape. During that process, the ideas I had and the actions I took opened me to new opportunities and I feel sure that is the same for most people.” Plus, “I have never seen so much creativity crammed into such a small space of time. It’s amazing and seriously this is a great time to be alive.”

You can read it here and see the really bad photo of me 🙁

So, this is the time to look back at what you did that worked 11 years to get you out of that mess. You don’t have to reinvent the wheel. You just have to pick out the actions or tactics you used to keep going. Or as my daughter at 8 years old wrote in the post-it note above, “Don’t give UP!!!”

Here are some tips about goal setting and why I started the MondayMotivator to kickstart this process.

Goals

Step 1. Make the decision that you desire to achieve the goal – this is the most important step!
Step 2. Believe that you can achieve the goal – the next most important step!
Step 3. Write your goal on paper – if it’s not written down it doesn’t exist.
Step 4. Be honest with yourself – do you really want this?
Step 5. Analyse your present situation – where are you starting from?
Step 6. Use deadlines – duh!
Step 7. Identify rocks that stand in your way
Step 8. Identify skills you will need – do you need to learn something to achieve this goal?
Step 9. Identify those people from whom you will need co-operation – friends, family, colleagues, enemies / competitors (seriously, what can you use from them)
Step 10. Make a complete business plan around this goal
Step 11. Visualise, emotionalise, affirm – most people feel a bit yucky or that it’s woo woo and miss this step. Don’t. I have been and it’s been holding me back.
Step 12. Determine to back your plan with patience and persistence

Remember for visualisation BE, DO, HAVE.

I have to BE the person that will achieve my goals in my head before I can DO the things necessary to achieve them and then I will HAVE my goals delivered to me.

I don’t know why this works. Confirmation Bias is one theory. The Secret is not. You have to do the work.

On why I started the MondayMotivator

“I was just learning about email marketing, starting a new business, seriously broke and I thought it would be a great way of keeping in touch with my friends, family and prospects. The other reason was I had been living a lifestyle that meant my discipline was out the window and I wanted to be accountable.

That meant I had to get up on a Monday morning, be still, write and get that email out by 9 am. In the beginning, I failed a few times and people let me know. So it took a while but my discipline came back and I feel positive it’s the best thing I could have done to get myself out of a hole, inspire others.”

I know this was longer than usual but I needed to kick myself into gear and if you’ve read this far you might need the same boost.

Look, we have been here before, we made it out and through with work, creativity and enthusiasm. We can do it again!

Have a great week.

Today’s minimotivator by Neil Gaiman on hats, special hats.

Neil Gaiman

Today’s minimotivator.

Some hats can only be 
worn if you’re willing to 
be jaunty, to set them 
at an angle and to walk 
beneath them with a 
spring in your stride as 
if you’re only a step away 
from dancing. They 
demand a lot of you.

– Neil Gaiman, Anansi Boys

Would you such a hat?

Would you walk as if a step away from dancing?

What joy you would feel if you did. What a smile you would be wearing below your hat. What a presence you would be wherever you went.

We all need a hat like that in our lives. Look for one today and be ready to dance!

 

 

Today’s minimotivator on patience and being ready for blast off

Blast off

Today’s #minimotivator.

Patience is the ability 
to
count down before 
you
blast off.

I’m not that patient but I love a good blastoff so I’m willing to wait. Patience is a strength worth building.

The best example is the ‘overnight success’. There is no such thing as an overnight success. You never see the ten years of struggle and hard work. The patience to keep working and improve 1 or 2% every day.

That’s patience.

I’m going to keep working on it and be ready for blastoff.

Photo from Nasa: https://apod.nasa.gov/apod/ap990720.html

Today’s minimotivator from Eleanor Roosevelt on curiosity

Eleanor Roosevelt

Today’s minimotivator.

Life was meant to be
lived and curiosity must
be kept alive. One must
never, for whatever
reason, turn one’s back
on life.

– Eleanor Roosevelt

Curiosity is one of the ‘gifts’ I want to give my children. It’s a gift I was given that has kept me asking questions. Looking in wonder at rainbows and stars. And, wanting to learn as much as I can.

One of the regrets I have is that I will never have enough time to learn everything I want to. The days are never long enough when you need to sleep.

However, there are learning opportunities even in the mundane. Being in the moment of whatever you’re doing means you are ‘living’ your life.

I remember being told that Osho had said that to be mindful say to yourself I am doing this thing.

For example, if you are walking say to yourself, “I am walking”. If you are washing the dishes say, “I am washing the dishes.”

This never fails to bring a smile to me face when I say these things but brings me into the moment.

Try it now. I am reading a minimotivator…

See? A smile.

 

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Today’s minimotivator from Corrie Ten Boom on worry

Corrie Ten Boom

Today’s minimotivator.

Worry does not empty 
tomorrow of its sorrow.
It empties today of its 
strength.

– Corrie Ten Boom

Worrying takes energy. A lot of energy. The energy you could be putting into the day before you.

Worry can lead to anxiety and anxiety will rip you into shreds.

How do you stop worrying?

First, you must stop. Question the worried thoughts. What is the worst that can happen?

Think about the scenarios from an objective point of view. Go through them. See that today they cannot hurt you.

You could even say to yourself you will worry about that at 3pm today for 10 minutes. That can work to shut your mind off to the worrying thoughts.

Embarrassment is the killer. In my opinion, the more you can experience embarrassment in your mind from that objective point of view the less impact it will have on you.

So, use all your energy for today. Worry is for another day or even better no day at all.

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